One of the most important attributes an individual can have is confidence. Confidence is invaluable in every area of life, but in business or in achieving any degree of greatness, it is absolutely essential. Unfortunately, there are few places we can go to learn this essential skill. Yet, it is a skill and, as such, can be developed with the right tools.
The first tool for gaining confidence is knowledge. Knowledge of your own strengths and limitations, and knowledge of the arena in which you wish to excel. But knowledge alone isn't enough. Knowledge leads to confidence only when it is validated by experience. We test the validity of what we think or believe by putting the theory into actual practice and gathering data or feedback from the experience. If the feedback is positive, we assume our theories are correct and act accordingly. If the feedback is negative, the bold among us will adjust our course, while the more timid often allow the negative feedback to stop them cold.
Confidence can be gained by knowing, understanding and correctly applying the following formulas and factors :
(1) Knowledge + Experience + Positive Feedback = Confidence. (2) Positive feedback comes from successful outcomes. (3) Successful outcomes are the result of consistent practice and repeated attempts. (4) Repeated attempts are possible only when we believe we will eventually succeed.
The formula seems to say that we must believe in our ability to succeed before we have experienced any semblance of success, and that is true. That's where the knowledge part of the confidence formula comes in, and why it is the first equation in the formula. Before we can believe we will succeed without ever having made an attempt, we must have some knowledge as to what success entails and what strengths and abilities we bring to the mix. We must also know the truth about "failure".
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Failure is not the result of attempting to achieve a goal and falling short of the mark. Failure occurs when we allow falling short of the mark to cause us to quit trying. Actually, there are only two ways to fail. (1) Give up before you reach a goal you really want or (2) continue on a path that is wrong for you because you made a wrong choice initially and believe the erroneous choice is the one you must stay with. Suppose, for example, you got into your car intending to meet a friend at an unfamiliar location. You get turned around on the way there and get lost.
In failure formula number one you discover you are lost and attempt to correct your course. However, you are too far off course for just one correction to get you back on track, so you make another correction and another one. After three or four corrections you decide you will never be able to find your way, so you give up, park your car, and never reach your destination.
In failure formula number two you decide that even though you made a wrong turn, you must stick with it because to make a new choice would mean you failed when you made the original decision that got you lost. So you continue down the wrong road, knowing it's wrong, but refusing to make an alteration because you've already made a choice, however wrong it may be.
Both scenarios sound pretty absurd in that context, but the world is full of people who people give up and quit before reaching their goal, and who stay with bad choices long after they have discovered they are bad.
To ensure success you must be willing to alter your course and keep altering it, and to try again and again, as many times as it takes, to reach your destination. Whether you reach it or not will depend on your belief in your ability to eventually arrive, and that brings us back to the confidence formula.
The faith to keep trying ultimately comes from knowing yourself and your abilities, and knowing how to use them most effectively. In the hustle-bustle of today's world, we sometimes forget to take a thorough look at our most valuable asset . . . ourselves. Only with self-awareness and understanding can we come to believe in our ability to find the right solution and to arrive at our goals.
People who don't know themselves are easily side-tracked. They have no well-defined personal boundaries and no center of power. A thorough and accurate self-assessment can provide the compass we need to get and stay on track. Without a center of power and personal boundaries to guide us, there is no way we can achieve our goals because there is no way to know for sure what our goals are, or should be.
Happy, centered, well-directed people are people who know their own core being and honor it. These are the people who have the basic tools to attempt new things, to set new goals, to persist in pursuing them. These are the people who succeed. They succeed because every achieved goal increases their faith in their ability to succeed and enables them to try greater and greater things. The happy result is a high degree of self-confidence and, with sufficient self-confidence, success is certain.
A mother like you must be the dearest of all God's creations.
I can't think of anything that is as sweet as a mother's love, that is as precious as you are to me, or that is as appreciated as you are by every single smile within me.
I love you so much, Mom. And I thank God that you're mine.
Histury to the Mother's Day
Mother's Day is a time of comme- moration and celebration for Mom. It is a t ime of breakfast in bed, family gatherings, and crayon scribbled " I Love You "s.
The earliest Mother's Day celebratio- ns can be traced back to the spring celebra- tions of ancient Greece in honor of Rhea, the Mother of the Gods . During the 1600's, England celebrated a day called " Motheri- ng Sunday ". Celebrated on the 4th Sunday of Lent ( the 40 day period leading up to Easter ), " Mothering Sunday " honored the mothers of England.
During this time many of the England's poor worked as servants for the wealthy . As most jobs were l ocated far from their homes , the servants would live at the houses of their employers . On Mothering Sunday the servants would have the day off and were encouraged to return home and spend the day with their mothers. A sp- ecial cake, called the mothering cake , was often brought along to provide a festive touch.
As Christianity spread throughout Europe the celebration changed to honor the " Mother Church " - the spiritual power that gave them life and protected them fro- m harm. Over time the church festival blen- ded with the Mothering Sunday celebration. People began honoring their mothers as well as the c hurch.
In the United States Mother's Day w- as first suggested in 1872 by Julia Ward Howe ( who wrote the words to the Battle hymn of the Republic ) as a day dedicated to peace. Ms . Howe would hold organized Mother's Day meetings in Boston , Mass ever year.
In 1907 Ana Jarvis , from Philadelphia , began a campaign to establish a national Mother's Day . Ms. Jarvis persuaded her mother's church in Grafton ,West Virginia to celebrate Mother's Day on the second anniversary of her mother's death , the 2nd Sunday of May . By the next year Mothe- r's Day was also celebrated in Philad- elphia.
Ms . Jarvis and her supporters began to write to ministers , businessman , and politicians in their quest to establish a nati- onal Mother's Day . It was successful as by 1911 Mother's Day was celebrated in almost every state . President Woodrow W- ilson , in 1914 , made the official announce- ment proclaiming Mother's Day as a natio- nal holiday that was to be held each year on the 2nd Sunday of May.
While many countries of the world cel- ebrate their own Mother's Day at differe- nt times throughout the year , there are some countries such as Denmark , Finl- and , Italy , Turkey , Australia , and Belg- ium which also celebrate Mother's Day on the second Sunday of May.
I'll be there by your side In the land of twilight
In your dream I will go Till we find the sunrise You are lost in nightmare Deep in blue illusion
One more kiss to wake you up Come be mine, you are mine I will be there seekin' for liminality No destinations to see, I wander In quiet places so dark as eternity I'm crying, calling your name I'm searching for you Dreaming in the land of the twilight We are in the land of the twilight Deep in blue eternity Search for liminality ......
I could be your sea of sand I could be your warmth of desire I could be your prayer of hope I could be your gift to everyday I could be your tide of heaven I could be a hint of what's to come
I could be ordinary I could be the one I could be your blue eyed angel I could be the storm before the calm I could be your secret pleasure I could be your well wishing well I could be your breath of life I could be your european dream I could be ordinary I could be the one Now I would lie here in the darkness Now I would lie here for all time Now I would lie here watching over you Comfort you Sing to you I could be your worry partner I could be your socialite I could be your green eyed monster I could be your force of light I could be your temple garden I could be your tender hearted child
I could be ordinary I could be the one Now I would lie here in the darkness Now I would lie here for all time Now I would lie here watching over you Comfort you Sing to you
Will I ever change the journey Will the hushed tones disappear Oh little rita Let me hold you Oh little rita Let me love you I could be your leafy island I could be your thunder in the clouds I could be your dark enclosure I could be your romantic soul I could be your small beginning I could be your suit in universe I could be ordinary I could be the one I could be ordinary I could be the one I could be ordinary
The furthest distance in the world , is not between life and death ....... But when I stand in front of you , yet you don't know that I love you ...... The furthest distance in the world , is not when I stand in front of you , yet you can't see my love .......
But when undoubtedly knowing the love from both yet can not be togehter...... The furthest distance in the world , is not being apart while being in love ....... But when plainly can not resist the yearning , yet pretending you have never been in my heart ......
The furthest distance in the world , is not ....... but using one's indifferent heart , to dig an uncrossable river , for the one who loves you ......
And you tread on the water When you know you can touch the bottom now It's the southern way , said your mother , " Stay in shallow , shallow water Don't touch the ground. " But then a slithering , sliding form Catches you before you reach the shore. And as he strikes , full of venom , you reach out towards the trouble. You've got him now , but how ?
And you thrust him to the sky. Arms raised high , you make a " Y ". There is no fear , there is no pain inside . As you twist and writhe . . . This is how you remember yourself . This is how you remember yourself. Arms raised high , needing no help . This is how you remember yourself.
And you know you can't keep this steady pose , You must release him somehow . But as you loosen your hold . The figh t you felt , it is old . It's over now. His body , lifeless and cold , You throw him down . And you raise your arms up to the sky .
Raised high , you make a " Y " . There is no fear , there is no pain inside . As the sun still shines on these drying lines . . . This is how you remember yourself . This i s how you remember yourself . Arms raised to heaven , needing no help . This is how you remember yourself .
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